Finding Purpose: Lessons from a Winter Reunion

It was a cold winter night when I met up with my old school friends at our teacher’s house. Back in the day, we were super close, but after 10th grade, we went our separate ways—I studied engineering, they became doctors. I was excited to catch up, expecting funny stories about school or updates on their lives. Instead, what I heard left me shocked.

A Surprising Moment

As we sipped hot tea, my friends—now successful doctors—asked our teacher, “Sir, what should we do with our lives?” I couldn’t believe it. These were smart people with big careers, but they sounded lost, like they were waiting for someone to tell them their life’s purpose. It made me think: how do you get so far and still not know where you’re going?

The Power of a Growth Mindset

It’s okay to feel stuck sometimes. We all do. But there’s a difference between feeling lost and expecting someone else to fix it. A growth mindset is about taking charge—trying new things, messing up, and learning from it. I’d have understood if my friends said, “We’ve tried different paths, but we’re stuck. Any advice?” That shows you’re working on finding purpose, even if it’s hard. But just asking for answers? That’s not the way to go.

For example, I love writing. It’s my thing. But I’m not where I want to be yet, and that’s tough. I could give up, but I keep going because writing feels right. I’m also learning new skills to pay the bills, like freelancing or other side gigs. That’s what a growth mindset looks like—keeping at it, even when it’s not easy.

Quick Tip: Write down one thing you enjoy doing. How can you make it part of your life’s purpose?

Discovering My Purpose Starts with Me

Nobody’s going to hand you your life’s purpose on a plate. Discovering my purpose means figuring out what makes you excited to get up in the morning. If you’re not sure what that is, no problem! Try new stuff—take a cooking class, learn to code, volunteer. The key is to explore until something clicks.

Think of it like being sick. If you’re in pain, you don’t just sit there and hope it goes away. You see a doctor, try medicine, maybe change your diet. You keep searching for what makes you better. Feeling lost in life is like that—it’s a sign to act. Start finding purpose by taking small steps, like reading about a new field or talking to someone who loves their job.

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Life Gets Tough—Keep Going

Life isn’t always smooth. It’s going to throw challenges your way, no matter what. But you can choose how to handle them. Pick a path that feels meaningful, even if it’s hard work. For me, writing is worth the struggle. I’m still figuring out how to make it my full-time gig, but every step teaches me something new.

Your Purpose Is a Journey

Discovering my purpose is like going on a big adventure. It’s not something you find in one day—it takes time, effort, and a growth mindset. You might fail along the way, and that’s okay. Each try gets you closer to understanding your life’s purpose.

Start Today

To my old friends—and to you—don’t wait for someone to tell you what to do. Take one small step toward finding purpose. Maybe it’s writing down what you love, trying a new hobby, or asking someone for advice. Your life’s purpose is out there, waiting for you to chase it.

Life’s not just about getting by—it’s about discovering my purpose and living for it.

What’s one step you’ll take to find your purpose? Share in the comments or on social media!

—Anas Ali